Relationships and Love
Discover a biblical perspective on marriage, singleness, love, and submission rooted in Christlike character, purpose. Relationships and Love
Relationships and Love – Relationship Goals?
The Bible was never meant to be a distant book filled with ancient stories. It was written to shape our everyday lives. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Scripture speaks with timeless wisdom. But one of the biggest misconceptions in Christian culture today is that marriage is the ultimate goal for everyone.
Not Everyone Is Called to Marriage and That’s Okay
Society often makes marriage feel like a requirement, a box to tick to be considered “settled” or “successful.” But the Bible doesn’t treat marriage as a universal calling. Paul himself celebrates singleness as a gift and an opportunity to serve the Lord with undivided devotion. If you are single, enjoy it. Explore, travel, grow in your calling. You can move to another country tomorrow without negotiating schedule, budget, or dreams with a spouse. Singleness is not a waiting room—it is a season of purpose. Better to marry later to the right person than early to the wrong one. Not being married does not mean you failed at life or missed God’s will. Some are called to marriage, some aren’t. Both paths are holy.
The True Purpose of Marriage
For those called to marriage, Scripture teaches that its ultimate purpose is to reflect the relationship between Jesus and the Church. Marriage isn’t just romance—it’s worship. It’s a living picture of sacrificial love. Culture tells us marriage is about romance, compatibility, financial stability, or building the “perfect life.” But Scripture paints a far deeper and holier picture. From the beginning, God created marriage as a living illustration of something eternal: the relationship between Christ and the Church. That is the ultimate purpose.
Loving a Wife Earns Her Submission
Biblical submission was never meant to be demanded—it is meant to be drawn out by love. Scripture calls wives to submit, but it calls husbands to something far more costly:
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”
That kind of love isn’t passive. It is sacrificial, consistent, intentional, and tender. It requires strength, not dominance. A wife’s submission grows naturally when she feels cherished, safe, and valued. Submission is a response to love, not a reaction to pressure. When a husband leads like Christ—serving, protecting, forgiving, and putting his wife first—her submission becomes a willing expression of trust and honor.
Relationships and Love – Husbands in leading
A husband’s love sets the tone for the entire relationship. When he sacrificially loves, she willingly supports. When he cherishes, she honours. When he leads with humility, she responds with respect. The call to love a wife “as Christ loved the Church” places a husband under one of the heaviest responsibilities in all of Scripture. It’s not a call to rule—it’s a call to lay down his life. A husband’s leadership is not about authority—it’s about accountability. God holds husbands responsible for the environment they create in their home, the emotional and spiritual climate they cultivate, and the way they care for the heart entrusted to them. A husband is not measured by how much control he has, but by how much he loves, serves, and sacrifices. His responsibility is not to dominate, but to demonstrate Christ.
Act of Jesus showing submission
Jesus modeled submission by washing feet. He carried authority but used it to serve, not dominate. So when a husband loves like Jesus—sacrificially, tenderly, without harshness—submission becomes a joy, not a burden. The Bible warns against domineering behavior. A husband doesn’t lead by force. He leads by cherishing—by “going all out” in love, being accountable, protecting, elevating, and nurturing his wife .Any use of Scripture to justify abuse, control, or manipulation is not biblical teaching.
